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Saturday, August 11, 2018

Is Anxiety Robbing You of Vitality?

Anxiety is often thought of as something that other people experience.  It gets framed as panic attacks or something large like not being able to leave the house or look at a photo of a snake without freaking out.  I am finding that many folk have more anxiety than the realize. It may not keep them functioning, but the need to grind it out or push through the anxious feelings robs them of feeling pleasure. Their anxiety acts like a low grade fever that undermines their ability to experience vitality and feeling good. 
Looking back, I now realize how much "monkey mind" was keeping my own low grade anxious feelings churning. I had got used to those feelings, so they didn't really get noticed until my adrenalin was really flowing. Overtime, this resulted in using food to de-stress, feeling restless a good deal of the time, an irregular heart beat and lower back problems. Well over ten years ago, I began to learn more about the brain and anxiety. After working on becoming less tolerant of stress and feeling anxious, I began to rewire my brain and set point for feeling anxious. Today, I intervene much quicker (with my go to shifting tools) to mentally reboot and shift my nervous systems response to life's event. As a result, my relationship with food is healthier, my back is the best it has been in decades and my irregular heart beat has all but vanished.
Rick Hanson in his book "The Buddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love & Wisdom," states that we our designed to be pretty chill 98% of the time. 2% of the time we may actually need to be jazzed up to fight or run when there is true life and death danger. The problem is, as life and our brains have evolved, we can create all sorts of scenarios in our head that gets us to react physiologically as if something is dangerous when it is not!
Learning to calm an over reactive nervous system is about learning to get out of your head into your life. Most of the stuff we fear never happens.  When we are calm, our capacity to take in the good that surrounds us multiplies exponentially.  
Getting to calm can be a challenge so I have created this workshop to share my "go to" techniques and what I have learned on how to break free from life draining anxiety.  Whether it is a slow or rapid leak of your energy, I think you will find this workshop helpful.

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Anxiety Buster Workshop

 Sunday  August 26th 6 – 8 pm

  Cost: $45



q  Do you feel anxious? 
q  Does anxiety make it hard to cope or be present?
q  Living or working in a Stressful environment?
q  Looking for easier ways to relieve anxiety?

In our time together, you will receive practical & action oriented “anxiety busters” that are simple to use and deliver results. Many who suffer from anxiety are looking for effective strategies to relieve and manage their anxiety without taking drugs. Many types of anxiety can be released or effectively managed with easy to learn and use “Anxiety Buster Tools.”

What you get...
·  Five Anti-Anxiety Tools
·  Understanding the Anxious Brain
·  Your Anxiety Type
·   Simple Tapping Technique for Anxiety

Location and Register at:
The Soul Purpose
1225 GAR Highway, Swansea, Ma.
Call or Text: 774.265.1329
Email: angelicguidancereading@gmail.com
             
Leader:  Greg Carpenter LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Energy Psychotherapist & Educator
Ph. 401.265.2951
gdcconsulting@comcast.net

Tuesday, July 10, 2018


Weight Loss & Stress


     Why is weight loss so hard?  It is because we are battling both our body and our mind.  Our brain chemistry can drive overeating and food is a powerful drug for numbing negative emotions.  
     Energy psychology techniques like tapping on acupuncture points is a powerful tool for calming the engine that drives overeating.  By tapping on cravings and core issues you can learn how to “eat to live instead of live to eat.” I have personally experienced that shift through EFT.   I have lost 75 lbs. and still tapping my way towards reaching my wellness weight.  So I have decided to offer this workshop while I am still on the weight loss journey.

July 29th – Sunday, 2018
·  Learn Tapping and Mind/Body Techniques for reaching your Wellness weight
·  Learn How to stop Food Cravings
·  Identify & Eliminate Emotional Overeating
·   Learn how to Get and Stay Motivated
·  Effectively Manage Emotions that Lead to Overeating

Begin your Journey Toward Permanent Weight Loss

“I'll show you how to use EFT Tapping and Energy Psychology to reach your Ideal Weight.  Stop food cravings, stop feeling deprived, tame your inner resistance and resolve core emotional issues that contribute to overeating.”

6:30 to 8:30 pm
The Soul Purpose
1225 GAR Highway, Swansea, Ma.

$35 per person

To register for the workshop, or to learn more about EFT, please contact:
Phone:    (774) 264-1329   can text
angelguidancereadings@gmail.com

  Greg Carpenter LMFT
   Licensed  Marriage and Family Therapist – Energy Psychology - Sound Therapy



Thursday, May 31, 2018

Upcoming Workshops

If your here looking to make a counseling appointment you will find my contact information on the right side or you can click on the Zencare badge for a site all about my therapy practice.  If you are looking for some opportunities for personal growth check out the following workshops.

Workshops

  • Getting Unstuck (for general public) - June 10th Sunday 6:30 - 8:30 pm at The Soul Purpose 1225 GAR   Highway, Swansea, Ma.  Cost $35  This workshop will focus on releasing negative feelings and beliefs that keep you stuck.  You will learn how to use tapping on acupoints and focus of attention (Emotional Freedom Technique) to move towards emotional freedom.  Contact me for more information.  ph 401.265.2951 or gdcconsulting@comcast.net

  • Himalaya Singing Bowl Meditation & Workshop (for therapist and coaches) - June 21st Thursday 6:30 pm - 8:30 pm  Cost $50  Location: My Office 21 Brook St. #14, Seekonk, Ma. This workshop is designed for counselors/coaches seeking to use sound for self-care and with their clients.  We will also cover "the how to" of integrating sound work into your therapy practice.  We will conclude our time with a relaxing 35 minute sound meditation.  Class is limited to seven.  Four opening remain.  Contact me for more information ph #401.265.2951 or gdcconsulting@comcast.net

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Relationships Matter III: Your Attachment Style

Read the following three paragraphs listed below and indicate which paragraphs best characterize the way you think, feel and behave in close relationships. 
A. I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult to trust them completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often, others want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being.
B. I find it relatively easy to get close to others and am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me. I don't worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close to me.
C. I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me or won't want to stay with me. I want to get very close to my partner, and this sometimes scares people away.
Researchers by the name of Hazen and Shaver asked respondents to make these same choices in order to learn more about adult attachment styles in their key relationships.  What they found is that 60% of adults categorized themselves as secure (paragraph B) and 20% described themselves as avoidant (paragraph A) and 20% described themselves as anxious-resistant (paragraph C).
Interestingly, these are about the same percentages found when measuring attachment in infants.
Psychologist Mary Ainsworth devised the Strange Situation Classification (in one to two year olds) in order to understand how attachment might vary between children. This research created different scenarios including a mother, stranger and baby in a small room together.  Then the mother would leave the room.  Upon her return, researchers would score and observe the interaction toward the mother by the child.  A child’s temperament might predict how they would react when the mother left.  But what the researchers were observing was the child’s response upon her return. 
Three attachment styles were observed by Ainsworth (1970) and a fourth later identified by Main and Solomon 1990.
1.     Safe and Secure – “I am loveable and others will be responsive.”

One of the greatest predictor of satisfaction in adult relationships is our attachment styles.  Children who were raised with generally consistent attunement and connection grew into adulthood with what is often called “Safe and Secure Attachment.”  They developed a positive working image of themselves and saw others as being helpful.  They saw themselves as worthy of respect and love.

2    Anxious – “I need other people, but I am not sure I can rely on them.”

Those children who experienced nurture, attunement and connection in an inconsistent pattern developed an adult Anxious Attachment Style.  In this pattern, children experienced their caregivers tuning into them in a loving way, but just as frequently also often experienced the vacuum or withdrawal of that connection.  The in and out nature of that important connection from a parent or caregiver resulted in an adult narrative that says “I need other people, but I am not sure I can rely on them.”
3.     
      Avoidant – “I am on my own, all alone and I really don’t need anyone.”

Another group of children were identified that didn’t receive much soothing, emotional safety, security or an experience of feeling seen.  This Avoidant Attachment Style may have had their survival needs taken care of, but received little attuned interaction to help them develop neurological circuitry for social engagement. We have two major brain systems that impact our relationships.  One is all about safety and the other is about connections and social engagement.  This unresponsive primary caregiver taught the child that communicating their needs had no influence on their mother or father.  As adults, Avoidant Attachment Styles often have a core belief that of, “I am on my own, all alone and I really don’t need anyone.” 
4.     
      Disorganized – “Sometimes I fall apart and can’t depend upon myself.”

       A fourth category was also discovered with children that had been abused or experienced ongoing trauma called disorganized attachment.  Adult attachment expert Diane Poole Heller provides this descriptions, When parents set up these interactions that are frightening, disorienting, inherently disorganizing, and which sometimes involve violence, the parents become the source of fear. The disorganized pattern arises in the child when there is a desire to be close to the parent as an object of safety, conflicting with a drive to detach from a dangerous and confusing caregiver. For the Adult this may mean being held emotionally hostage by the conflict of the desire for intimacy and as the fear of it.” 
This Disorganized Attachment Style in adulthood often experiences lifes as “sometimes I fall apart and can’t depend upon myself.”  
The So What and Now What

If this is your first pass through attachment styles, you might like many, a bit defeated.  You may have read this as fate or reinforcement that you or your partner can’t change.  We now know that change is possible.  Our history certainly influences our relationships but it is not necessarily our destiny (by the way "avoidant" folk often believe that the past has no influence on who they are now).  A difficult early childhood has a great influence on your adult attachment style, but it isn’t fate. 

Some folk need to learn how to manage their anxiety and to communicate without the implied or overt criticisms that often flows freely.  Others need to recognize that they do have a need for connection and need to work on learning how to attune and engage more deeply.  If you are interested in learning more about your attachment style I would recommend the ..test on Diane Poole Heller’s web site. Click here for the test.


Therapeutic experiences, couples counseling, understanding our how attachment styles shape our perception, along with being in a healthy relationships can make all the difference in your relational health.