Thursday, August 22, 2013
Rick Hanson has a new book that is about to be released that sounds very interesting. "Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence. Dr. Hanson states, "through new developments in brain science you will learn practical, research-based ways to:
-be on your own side
-take in the good
-rest in love
-come home to happiness"
I am looking forward to his new book and have thoroughly enjoyed his book, "Bhudda's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom."
Rick is all about practical application while making brain science discoveries understandable. For example, were you aware that the primitive part of our brain operates 5-6 times faster than our thinking brain! Were you aware that our brain dedicates mores resources to survival and thus creates a negativity bias (remembers negative events more easily than positive events)?
My clients have found it helpful to discover that briefly focusing their breath and attention for 10-15 seconds on positive experiences we can counterbalance the brains negativity bias.
This brings a while new meaning to that ole' saying, "thoughts are things."
Saturday, August 3, 2013
Happiness is addicting. We want it, we crave…we need it.
Nothing feels better than that spike in our dopamine levels (a.k.a. the “feel-good” chemical).
It is not exactly a well-kept secret that an increase in happiness is associated with higher salaries, improved physical health, and a growth in creativity. People simply do not function to their fullest potential when they are unhappy; although, ironically enough, the pursuit of happiness leads to quite the contrary outcome. Do people really know what makes them happy? Most of us like to think so. If that were the case, however, why are there not more people satisfied with their lives?
Recent studies show that the small life decisions people tend to make in order to avoid negative emotions may actually prevent them from achieving a certain level of happiness. For example, people tend to ignore their curiosity of new activities and settle for their usual routine. It’s worked for them long enough, why risk an unpleasant experience? According to Kashdan and Sterger (2007), however, individuals who acted on their curiosity were more likely to express satisfaction with their lives.
Exploring the unknown often causes minor states of anxiety causing people to avoid basic changes to their routine. This outcome is completely understandable because common sense tells us to try and appease our anxiety. However, while this temporary state of discontent may lead to a positive, long-term outcome.
Think “that which does not kill me, makes me stronger.”
I experienced this for myself during finals week, my sophomore year of college. Every week was so similar to the last that I would become irrationally annoyed at a friend for not knowing my schedule. I once snapped, “No, I can’t go. It’s Thursday – every Thursday I go to the gym at 5:30, grab dinner at 6:30, then go to dance until 10 pm.” (As if everybody should know my obsessive need for scheduling). Friday nights usually consisted of homework, the gym, and maybe a movie with I needed a break.
One Friday, however, I went from my last class of the week to lunch and then into Boston for a baseball game. This change in schedule left me twitching; I spent the full week beforehand trying to convince myself that it wouldn’t be a miserable night (although, I didn’t even like baseball…how fun could it have been?). But I was curious. I almost backed out of the plans several times, but I just kept thinking, “what if it’s fun?” So, strictly to appease my curiosity and indulge my sense of adventure, I went. In the end, it was fun. It was windy and cold and the game lasted far longer than it should have. But it was fun. It was different. And so a new routine formed: trying something different on my free days.
The most important thing to keep in mind when trying to be happy is to stop trying. The worrying and the planning only cause (at best) no or minimal increase in happiness or (worse) further distress in the long run. So instead of worrying that if you sit outside too long, you won’t catch the movie you wanted to watch, just enjoy the moment.